Ijournal entry 100614 # 40 GO SAINTS! October, Month of the Holy Rosary. Quotes by St. Jose Escriva, Mother Teresa, and St. John Paul II. Article: "St. Gianna and Pietro Molla: models for the Synod on the Family", by Terry McDermott. Article: "Can a Catholic Ever Get Married in a Non-Catholic Church?", by Cathy Caridi, J.C.L. Audio sermon on morality and marriage, by Fr. Robert Altier
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It would have been a sin
If we did not win
GO SAINTS!
It would have been a sin
If we did not win
GO SAINTS!
The Cheese & Crackers = Quotes by St. Jose Escriva, Mother Teresa, and St. John Paul II
The Veggies = My 2cents
The Potatoes = Article: "St. Gianna and Pietro Molla: models for the Synod on the Family", by Terry McDermott
The Meat = Article: "Can a Catholic Ever Get Married in a Non-Catholic Church?", by Cathy Caridi, J.C.L.,
The Dessert = Audio sermon on morality and marriage, by Fr. Robert Altier
The Veggies = My 2cents
The Potatoes = Article: "St. Gianna and Pietro Molla: models for the Synod on the Family", by Terry McDermott
The Meat = Article: "Can a Catholic Ever Get Married in a Non-Catholic Church?", by Cathy Caridi, J.C.L.,
The Dessert = Audio sermon on morality and marriage, by Fr. Robert Altier
Cheese & Crackers
⚫️"Couples have the grace of the married state — the grace they receive in the Sacrament of Marriage — which enables them to live all the human and Christian virtues in their married life: understanding, good humor, patience, forgiveness, refinement and consideration in their mutual relations. The important thing is not to give up the effort, not to give in to nerves, pride or personal fads or obsessions. In order to achieve this, husbands and wives must grow in interior life and learn from the Holy Family to live with refinement, for supernatural and at the same time human reasons, the virtues of a Christian home. I repeat again that the grace of God will not be lacking". By St. Jose Escriva.
🔴"I think the world today is upside down. Everybody seems to be in such a terrible rush, anxious for greater development and greater riches and so on. There is much suffering because there is so very little love in homes and in family life. We have no time for our children, we have no time for each other; there is no time to enjoy each other. In the home begins the disruption of the peace of the world". By Mother Teresa
🔵 "The great danger for family life, in the midst of any society whose idols are pleasure, comfort and independence, lies in the fact that people close their hearts and become selfish". By St. John Paul II
⚪️ "The purpose of marriage is to help married people sanctify themselves and others. For this reason they receive a special grace in the sacrament which Jesus Christ instituted. Those who are called to the married state will, with the grace of God, find within their state everything they need to be holy, to identify themselves each day more with Jesus Christ, and to lead those with whom they live to God". By St. Jose Escriva
⚫️ "It is important for married people to acquire a clear sense of the dignity of their vocation. They must know that they have been called by God not only to human love but also to a divine love, through their human love. It is important for them to realize that they have been chosen from all eternity to cooperate with the creative power of God by having and then bringing up children. Our Lord asks them to make their home and their entire family life a testimony of all the Christian virtues". St Jose Escriva
⚫️"Couples have the grace of the married state — the grace they receive in the Sacrament of Marriage — which enables them to live all the human and Christian virtues in their married life: understanding, good humor, patience, forgiveness, refinement and consideration in their mutual relations. The important thing is not to give up the effort, not to give in to nerves, pride or personal fads or obsessions. In order to achieve this, husbands and wives must grow in interior life and learn from the Holy Family to live with refinement, for supernatural and at the same time human reasons, the virtues of a Christian home. I repeat again that the grace of God will not be lacking". By St. Jose Escriva.
🔴"I think the world today is upside down. Everybody seems to be in such a terrible rush, anxious for greater development and greater riches and so on. There is much suffering because there is so very little love in homes and in family life. We have no time for our children, we have no time for each other; there is no time to enjoy each other. In the home begins the disruption of the peace of the world". By Mother Teresa
🔵 "The great danger for family life, in the midst of any society whose idols are pleasure, comfort and independence, lies in the fact that people close their hearts and become selfish". By St. John Paul II
⚪️ "The purpose of marriage is to help married people sanctify themselves and others. For this reason they receive a special grace in the sacrament which Jesus Christ instituted. Those who are called to the married state will, with the grace of God, find within their state everything they need to be holy, to identify themselves each day more with Jesus Christ, and to lead those with whom they live to God". By St. Jose Escriva
⚫️ "It is important for married people to acquire a clear sense of the dignity of their vocation. They must know that they have been called by God not only to human love but also to a divine love, through their human love. It is important for them to realize that they have been chosen from all eternity to cooperate with the creative power of God by having and then bringing up children. Our Lord asks them to make their home and their entire family life a testimony of all the Christian virtues". St Jose Escriva
The Veggies
The time is right, as the leading is there to do something on marriage. The Synod of Bishops are meeting at the Vatican from October 5th to the 19th to discuss the challenges of the family. Besides that, love is in the air, as there is the up coming October marriage of Jodi & Beau. On their heels is the marriage of Mary & Douglas in November. Another incident relating to a wedding is being included in my prayers. Please pray that all those who are planning a wedding, may come to the realization may they are really contemplating a sacrament. May the emphasis be on uniting in the sight of The Lord with His blessings as they partake in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony. Sharing some "Amens" from others who are Catholic and non-Catholics. Check out a few blog comments from this article: "Rick Warren, other non-Catholics urge Church to stand firm; The wrong time to go soft on marriage".
Site address:
http://cal-catholic.com/?p=15712
📎Pete Blog Comment = "I saw Rev Rick Warren on EWTN.
He and his wife love Mother Angelica, and they pray the ‘Divine Mercy Chaplet’ with EWTN almost daily. There are some good Christian Protestants who follow Jesus better than some Catholic Cardinals/Bishops – such as heretics – Kasper, Danneels, etc,.
✏️– “Thou shall not commit Adultery” – God’s Commandment
✏️– “Thou shall not covet thy Neighbor’s wife” – God’s Commandment
✏️– Teachings of Jesus about divorce and remarriage :
📖 Mk 10:6-12 "But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother [and be joined to his wife], and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate.” In the house the disciples again questioned him about this. He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and married another commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
📖 Matthew 5:32 "But I say to you, whoever divorces his wife unless the marriage is unlawful causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery"
✏️– Teaching of Jesus about adultery, mercy, and required repentance – “Go and Sin No More”
📖 John 8:11 "She replied, “No one, sir.” Then Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you. Go, [and] from now on do not sin any more"
📎Oscar blog comment = It is NOT MERCIFUL, or CHARITABLE, or PASTORAL to ignore, condone, or confirm people in their Mortal Sins.
(In this case Adultery – choosing to continue a sexual relationship with the valid spouse of another. And Sacrilege against the Body and Blood of our Lord.). Un-repented mortal sins send Souls to Hell for eternity.
Cardinals and Bishops who support people in their Mortal Sins – will join them for they are wolves in sheeps’ clothing. Sacrilege against the Eucharist in violation of 1 Cor 11:27-30.
📖 1 Corinthians 11:27-30 "Therefore whoever eats the bread or drinks the cup of the Lord unworthily will have to answer for the body and blood of the Lord. A person should examine himself, and so eat the bread and drink the cup. For anyone who eats and drinks without discerning the body, eats and drinks judgment on himself. That is why many among you are ill and infirm, and a considerable number are dying.
📓 CCC: ” 1868 Sin is a personal act. Moreover, we have a responsibility for the sins committed by others when we cooperate in them:
✏️– by participating directly and voluntarily in them;
✏️– by ordering, advising, praising, or approving them;
✏️– by not disclosing or not hindering them when we have an obligation to do so;
✏️– by protecting evil-doers. “
📎Ted blog comment = The only reason that some Cardinals/Bishops can get away with their heresy is because they do not actively encourage those within their Diocese to read a Catholic Bible and the ‘Catechism of the Catholic Church, Second Edition”. Their people are ignorant of their Faith due to their Bishop’s lack of teaching. So whatever heresy the Cardinal wants to promote becomes their new Faith. The Pope needs to excommunicate Cardinals/Bishops who advocate against the teachings of Christ and His Church. MCode of Canon Law 184 – 196 ” LOSS OF ECCLESIASTICAL OFFICE ”
📖Hosea 4:6 ” My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge;
because you have rejected knowledge, I reject you from being a priest to me. And since you have forgotten the law of your God, I also will forget your children.”
Maybe someone can glean something useful from my email that was sent to a friend in regards to the upcoming marriage of a child:
Sharing a little info on the topic of marriage, hoping it is the right info being shared at the right time, and with the right person. This sister once told me :
"correction/advice I have found is well received only from the right person, at the right time, etc.". That is so, so true. Prayed and felt led to send this email. That being said, if or when the Holy Spirit leads, if you feel so led, do forward this email to your child. It was a good learning experience for me to do a bit of research in this area.
It brought me great delight to hear about the upcoming marriage. However, finding out that the annulment process if needed, will not be considered before the wedding so that the marriage can be in the Catholic Church, was disappointing. The fact that one might not be able to receive the sacraments, and be guilty of sin if the marriage is not a "brother/sister" type relationship, brought unrest to my spirit. You all are so nice and have wonderful children, so who wouldn't want the best for each child, especially spiritual health and well being. Eternal life is the goal, and not the fires of hell, Lord have mercy.
My prayers are that the couple do not continue, or do not do anything that jeopardizes their souls. None of us know the day or hour, or if we will be granted enough time for repentance. Unrepentant and unconfessed sin can be detrimental. That applies to me, to you, and to the whole world, we must be vigilant.
📖 Philippians 2:12 "Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed--not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence--continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling"
Here is a two minute audio presentation from EWTN to help bring clarity to the issue of marriage and remarriage as it pertains to the teaching of the church for practicing Catholics.
http://ewtn.edgeboss.net/download/ewtn/audiolibrary/crux14.mp3
Looking for canon law statements to share with someone regarding the issue of veiling, resulted in the following info falling into my lap. Since it was not a marriage search, and this info turned up, it seems that this info might be something The Lord wants shared. The site is: "Cannon Law made easy".
One of my relatives is finally in a marriage that is blessed by the church. It took many years, maybe over 20, for a sacramental marriage to materialize. In later years when my spiritual senses were heightened, my prayers were also put in the pot. The ball started to roll, but it hit some road blocks along the way. The annulment process came to a halt, and the years continued to roll by. Thanks be to God in His mercy, the couple were given graces again to rectify the situation of living together in sin, although in a civil marriage.
Thank God the fact was ever present that it's being in the same sinful boat, whether it's just living together, or being in an invalid marriage. They knew the civil marriage was acceptable and not sinful, only if they lived together as brother and sister. It was a grace to know the truth, and not continue living in error a whole life time thinking that a civil marriage was ok. Not abandoning the Catholic Church, and still practicing the faith in a limited way, by going to Mass was the order of the day, but not being able to receive the sacraments was a great loss realized. One spouse was never baptized, but always attended church, and was really very inclined to authentic spiritual things, praying and being in tuned to God. Surely, a heart in the right place, was an opening enabling one to respond to graces to be received into the one true church. Willing to bet one day this person will be a giant in the faith, and very helpful in the kingdom of God, because of having a good grasp of the spiritual. With an adult baptism, every past sin committed is completely wiped away, so starting the rest of one's life with a perfectly clean slate is very advantageous. No forgotten past sins that have gone unrepentant up to that point will have to be accounted for.
Since getting the marriage blest, good spiritual things are happenng. As a family they are doing Eucharistic Adoration, etc. So glad they did not die living in an invalid marriage, Lord have mercy. So definitely my prayers are for your child to experience a Sacramental Holy marriage, one that is pleasing and valid in the sight of The Lord. A marriage that can bring them great joy unto death do they part. We know the sun shines on the good and bad alike, but God does not bless sin.
📖 Matthew 5:45 "that you may be children of your heavenly Father, for he makes his sun rise on the bad and the good, and causes rain to fall on the just and the unjust"
Therefore a marriage outside of the church may not receive blessings that are complete, whereas the graces the sacrament brings to a married couple are many. So many graces are needed to weather the storms that may come up in a relationship and to be able to faithfully persevere. Where sin might be involved, there is a good chance for hinderances to a good solid foundation that is necessary for sustaining a marriage. More people need to be informed and realize the consequences of sin, and not jeopardize their soul. We can't take our faith lightly, either we believe or we don't believe.
Wanted to share the things on my heart in good faith and love, without meaning any harm. We, as Christians, must always be about the Corporal and Spiritual Works of Mercy. Sometimes we are at the giving end, and at other times the receiving end. All done in the name of becoming better Christians, saving our souls, and helping others do the same, to the Glory of God.
On 10-05-14, received this email response from posing the question about marriage to the RC Spirituality Center, "Ask a Priest":
Your "Ask a Priest" Question has been answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC. God bless, RC Spirituality Center
"A Catholic who marries without Church approval is entering an invalid union, and would essentially be “living in sin.” A valid marriage carries a special grace that helps couples – and that grace is obviously missing in an invalid union. There is still the mercy of God, however. So the person who enters an invalid marriage should be encouraged to have it recognized by the Church, preferably sooner than later. Keep praying for that couple"
Priests are busy, but thank God we can give the ones we always turn to a break by taking advantage of the "Ask a Priest" Regnum Christi ministry . Many thanks to own home grown Msgr. Christopher, who graciously answers my email questions from time to time.
Here is the link to the "Ask a Priest" website, or if you wish, you can use their email address to contact them. The website contains various questions asked by others, and the question box is located at the bottom of the page.
Website : http://rcspirituality.org/ask-a-priest/
Site address:
http://cal-catholic.com/?p=15712
📎Pete Blog Comment = "I saw Rev Rick Warren on EWTN.
He and his wife love Mother Angelica, and they pray the ‘Divine Mercy Chaplet’ with EWTN almost daily. There are some good Christian Protestants who follow Jesus better than some Catholic Cardinals/Bishops – such as heretics – Kasper, Danneels, etc,.
✏️– “Thou shall not commit Adultery” – God’s Commandment
✏️– “Thou shall not covet thy Neighbor’s wife” – God’s Commandment
✏️– Teachings of Jesus about divorce and remarriage :
📖 Mk 10:6-12 "But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother [and be joined to his wife], and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate.” In the house the disciples again questioned him about this. He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and married another commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
📖 Matthew 5:32 "But I say to you, whoever divorces his wife unless the marriage is unlawful causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery"
✏️– Teaching of Jesus about adultery, mercy, and required repentance – “Go and Sin No More”
📖 John 8:11 "She replied, “No one, sir.” Then Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you. Go, [and] from now on do not sin any more"
📎Oscar blog comment = It is NOT MERCIFUL, or CHARITABLE, or PASTORAL to ignore, condone, or confirm people in their Mortal Sins.
(In this case Adultery – choosing to continue a sexual relationship with the valid spouse of another. And Sacrilege against the Body and Blood of our Lord.). Un-repented mortal sins send Souls to Hell for eternity.
Cardinals and Bishops who support people in their Mortal Sins – will join them for they are wolves in sheeps’ clothing. Sacrilege against the Eucharist in violation of 1 Cor 11:27-30.
📖 1 Corinthians 11:27-30 "Therefore whoever eats the bread or drinks the cup of the Lord unworthily will have to answer for the body and blood of the Lord. A person should examine himself, and so eat the bread and drink the cup. For anyone who eats and drinks without discerning the body, eats and drinks judgment on himself. That is why many among you are ill and infirm, and a considerable number are dying.
📓 CCC: ” 1868 Sin is a personal act. Moreover, we have a responsibility for the sins committed by others when we cooperate in them:
✏️– by participating directly and voluntarily in them;
✏️– by ordering, advising, praising, or approving them;
✏️– by not disclosing or not hindering them when we have an obligation to do so;
✏️– by protecting evil-doers. “
📎Ted blog comment = The only reason that some Cardinals/Bishops can get away with their heresy is because they do not actively encourage those within their Diocese to read a Catholic Bible and the ‘Catechism of the Catholic Church, Second Edition”. Their people are ignorant of their Faith due to their Bishop’s lack of teaching. So whatever heresy the Cardinal wants to promote becomes their new Faith. The Pope needs to excommunicate Cardinals/Bishops who advocate against the teachings of Christ and His Church. MCode of Canon Law 184 – 196 ” LOSS OF ECCLESIASTICAL OFFICE ”
📖Hosea 4:6 ” My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge;
because you have rejected knowledge, I reject you from being a priest to me. And since you have forgotten the law of your God, I also will forget your children.”
Maybe someone can glean something useful from my email that was sent to a friend in regards to the upcoming marriage of a child:
Sharing a little info on the topic of marriage, hoping it is the right info being shared at the right time, and with the right person. This sister once told me :
"correction/advice I have found is well received only from the right person, at the right time, etc.". That is so, so true. Prayed and felt led to send this email. That being said, if or when the Holy Spirit leads, if you feel so led, do forward this email to your child. It was a good learning experience for me to do a bit of research in this area.
It brought me great delight to hear about the upcoming marriage. However, finding out that the annulment process if needed, will not be considered before the wedding so that the marriage can be in the Catholic Church, was disappointing. The fact that one might not be able to receive the sacraments, and be guilty of sin if the marriage is not a "brother/sister" type relationship, brought unrest to my spirit. You all are so nice and have wonderful children, so who wouldn't want the best for each child, especially spiritual health and well being. Eternal life is the goal, and not the fires of hell, Lord have mercy.
My prayers are that the couple do not continue, or do not do anything that jeopardizes their souls. None of us know the day or hour, or if we will be granted enough time for repentance. Unrepentant and unconfessed sin can be detrimental. That applies to me, to you, and to the whole world, we must be vigilant.
📖 Philippians 2:12 "Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed--not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence--continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling"
Here is a two minute audio presentation from EWTN to help bring clarity to the issue of marriage and remarriage as it pertains to the teaching of the church for practicing Catholics.
http://ewtn.edgeboss.net/download/ewtn/audiolibrary/crux14.mp3
Looking for canon law statements to share with someone regarding the issue of veiling, resulted in the following info falling into my lap. Since it was not a marriage search, and this info turned up, it seems that this info might be something The Lord wants shared. The site is: "Cannon Law made easy".
One of my relatives is finally in a marriage that is blessed by the church. It took many years, maybe over 20, for a sacramental marriage to materialize. In later years when my spiritual senses were heightened, my prayers were also put in the pot. The ball started to roll, but it hit some road blocks along the way. The annulment process came to a halt, and the years continued to roll by. Thanks be to God in His mercy, the couple were given graces again to rectify the situation of living together in sin, although in a civil marriage.
Thank God the fact was ever present that it's being in the same sinful boat, whether it's just living together, or being in an invalid marriage. They knew the civil marriage was acceptable and not sinful, only if they lived together as brother and sister. It was a grace to know the truth, and not continue living in error a whole life time thinking that a civil marriage was ok. Not abandoning the Catholic Church, and still practicing the faith in a limited way, by going to Mass was the order of the day, but not being able to receive the sacraments was a great loss realized. One spouse was never baptized, but always attended church, and was really very inclined to authentic spiritual things, praying and being in tuned to God. Surely, a heart in the right place, was an opening enabling one to respond to graces to be received into the one true church. Willing to bet one day this person will be a giant in the faith, and very helpful in the kingdom of God, because of having a good grasp of the spiritual. With an adult baptism, every past sin committed is completely wiped away, so starting the rest of one's life with a perfectly clean slate is very advantageous. No forgotten past sins that have gone unrepentant up to that point will have to be accounted for.
Since getting the marriage blest, good spiritual things are happenng. As a family they are doing Eucharistic Adoration, etc. So glad they did not die living in an invalid marriage, Lord have mercy. So definitely my prayers are for your child to experience a Sacramental Holy marriage, one that is pleasing and valid in the sight of The Lord. A marriage that can bring them great joy unto death do they part. We know the sun shines on the good and bad alike, but God does not bless sin.
📖 Matthew 5:45 "that you may be children of your heavenly Father, for he makes his sun rise on the bad and the good, and causes rain to fall on the just and the unjust"
Therefore a marriage outside of the church may not receive blessings that are complete, whereas the graces the sacrament brings to a married couple are many. So many graces are needed to weather the storms that may come up in a relationship and to be able to faithfully persevere. Where sin might be involved, there is a good chance for hinderances to a good solid foundation that is necessary for sustaining a marriage. More people need to be informed and realize the consequences of sin, and not jeopardize their soul. We can't take our faith lightly, either we believe or we don't believe.
Wanted to share the things on my heart in good faith and love, without meaning any harm. We, as Christians, must always be about the Corporal and Spiritual Works of Mercy. Sometimes we are at the giving end, and at other times the receiving end. All done in the name of becoming better Christians, saving our souls, and helping others do the same, to the Glory of God.
On 10-05-14, received this email response from posing the question about marriage to the RC Spirituality Center, "Ask a Priest":
Your "Ask a Priest" Question has been answered by Fr. Edward McIlmail, LC. God bless, RC Spirituality Center
"A Catholic who marries without Church approval is entering an invalid union, and would essentially be “living in sin.” A valid marriage carries a special grace that helps couples – and that grace is obviously missing in an invalid union. There is still the mercy of God, however. So the person who enters an invalid marriage should be encouraged to have it recognized by the Church, preferably sooner than later. Keep praying for that couple"
Priests are busy, but thank God we can give the ones we always turn to a break by taking advantage of the "Ask a Priest" Regnum Christi ministry . Many thanks to own home grown Msgr. Christopher, who graciously answers my email questions from time to time.
Here is the link to the "Ask a Priest" website, or if you wish, you can use their email address to contact them. The website contains various questions asked by others, and the question box is located at the bottom of the page.
Website : http://rcspirituality.org/ask-a-priest/
- Email address for GOT A QUESTION? ASK A PRIESTSend any question to [email protected]
The Potatoes
Article: "St. Gianna and Pietro Molla: models for the Synod on the Family", by Terry McDermott
Complete article found at this site: http://catholicinsight.com/st-gianna-and-pietro-molla-models-for-the-synod-on-the-family/
"There’s much rumour and speculation swirling around the upcoming Synod on the Family in October 2014. One of the main points of debate is whether or not divorced or remarried Catholics should be allowed to receive Holy Communion if an annulment has not been granted. Other areas to be addressed include same-sex marriage, co-habitation, and the role of men and women within a marriage. Although there seems to be much disagreement among Catholics including all levels of the clergy, the one thing everyone agrees on is the need to provide compassionate, unambiguous, pastoral care to married couples and their families. Today’s Catholic families need a model of committed sacramental marriage. The prelates at the Synod only have to look at the example of St. Gianna and Pietro Molla to determine how to best strengthen the vocation of marriage that is threatened by many societal forces in our present day.
St. Gianna and Pietro had a modern marriage even by today’s standards. They both had demanding careers: she was a medical doctor with a busy practice and he was an engineer and plant manager at SAFFA, a manufacturing company. They had a young family and so there were childcare arrangements to consider as well as the other needs of a growing family. Pietro travelled a great deal for SAFFA and St. Gianna sometimes felt frustrated at his absence. They had holidays together and sometimes apart. There was the mundane routine of household chores. They dealt with children’s illnesses; they experienced death. The three tenets of Catholic Action (a group in which they were both involved and in which St. Gianna was president of the women’s division) formed the basis of their marriage: prayer, action, sacrifice.
📌Prayer
Prayer was central to their marriage and both of them tried to assist at Holy Mass even on weekdays. Pietro attended weekday Mass whenever he could during his business trips. The Holy Eucharist was the source of strength they faithfully drew upon and each new child was consecrated to Our Lady. Before their wedding day St. Gianna made a suggestion that was warmly received by Pietro: “What would you say about our making a triduum to prepare spiritually to receive the Sacrament?”
📌Action
The second pillar of their marriage was action. As a physician, St. Gianna was not only conscientious, she was compassionate and never hesitated to re-affirm the sanctity of life. She was a devoted mother who juggled the needs of her family with her professional responsibilities. As an engineer and plant manager at SAFFA, Pietro “constantly pursued new avenues of production. In this case, charity led him to diversify production” in order to provide jobs for his workforce even though it meant many absences from home. When he was at home, Pietro spent much time with his young children and his beautiful wife. When he was travelling, he wrote home almost daily.
📌Sacrifice
The third pillar, sacrifice, was undertaken daily in the way St. Gianna and Pietro placed the needs of each other and of the children above their own. For Pietro, frequent absences from home was a sacrifice that he bore and offered to God for his family. Sacrifice was also evident in St. Gianna’s choice to save her fourth baby’s life over her own. Pietro recalled that after Gianna Emanuela’s birth, St. Gianna, “with difficulty took the baby in her arms, lifted her up, and kissed her, looking at her with such sadness that I knew she was aware that she would leave this child an orphan.” Pietro sacrificed and suffered much in agreeing to his wife’s request to save the baby’s life over her own and then raising the children as a single father. Two years after St. Gianna’s death, he suffered the unimaginable grief of losing a child, Mariolina, to a fatal illness. He expressed the role that sacrifice and suffering played in his marriage and family life: “I’ve had to convince myself that sorrow remains a mystery even in the light of faith, and I have experienced that the only way to accept it is the way of the Crucified Christ.” Like St. Gianna and Pietro, if we strive to live our marriage unselfishly, with great love for God, our spouse, and our children, we will feel the weight of the cross given to us by Our Father in order to sanctify us through the vocation He wills for us. It is in our vocation of marriage lived joyfully and with trust in Divine Providence that He calls us to be saints.
Hopefully, the Synod will honour the call to sanctity in marriage. Hopefully they will address the challenges faced by Catholic families, not by watering down Magisterial teachings but by raising up married people to bear witness to God’s love and salvation through the Church’s teaching on marriage and family life. Hopefully, they will call for us to repent and atone for whatever in our marital situation is not in line with the Magisterium and therefore contrary to God’s plan for us.
St. Gianna and Pietro Molla showed us what the modern Catholic marriage ought to be: self-giving, patient, loving, joyful, passionate, and upheld by the pillars of prayer, action, and sacrifice. The Synod on the Family should provide us with renewed sound Catholic teaching and support so that in our marriages we may daily strive to live these ideals. Let us pray for the defense and strengthening of sacramental Catholic marriage. Let us pray for our bishops and all clergy who are called to follow the Magisterium in the area of marriage and family life and who have the challenge of guiding us to live out our vocation well. Let us pray for all married couples and their families. St. Gianna and Pietro Molla, pray for us".
Complete article found at this site: http://catholicinsight.com/st-gianna-and-pietro-molla-models-for-the-synod-on-the-family/
"There’s much rumour and speculation swirling around the upcoming Synod on the Family in October 2014. One of the main points of debate is whether or not divorced or remarried Catholics should be allowed to receive Holy Communion if an annulment has not been granted. Other areas to be addressed include same-sex marriage, co-habitation, and the role of men and women within a marriage. Although there seems to be much disagreement among Catholics including all levels of the clergy, the one thing everyone agrees on is the need to provide compassionate, unambiguous, pastoral care to married couples and their families. Today’s Catholic families need a model of committed sacramental marriage. The prelates at the Synod only have to look at the example of St. Gianna and Pietro Molla to determine how to best strengthen the vocation of marriage that is threatened by many societal forces in our present day.
St. Gianna and Pietro had a modern marriage even by today’s standards. They both had demanding careers: she was a medical doctor with a busy practice and he was an engineer and plant manager at SAFFA, a manufacturing company. They had a young family and so there were childcare arrangements to consider as well as the other needs of a growing family. Pietro travelled a great deal for SAFFA and St. Gianna sometimes felt frustrated at his absence. They had holidays together and sometimes apart. There was the mundane routine of household chores. They dealt with children’s illnesses; they experienced death. The three tenets of Catholic Action (a group in which they were both involved and in which St. Gianna was president of the women’s division) formed the basis of their marriage: prayer, action, sacrifice.
📌Prayer
Prayer was central to their marriage and both of them tried to assist at Holy Mass even on weekdays. Pietro attended weekday Mass whenever he could during his business trips. The Holy Eucharist was the source of strength they faithfully drew upon and each new child was consecrated to Our Lady. Before their wedding day St. Gianna made a suggestion that was warmly received by Pietro: “What would you say about our making a triduum to prepare spiritually to receive the Sacrament?”
📌Action
The second pillar of their marriage was action. As a physician, St. Gianna was not only conscientious, she was compassionate and never hesitated to re-affirm the sanctity of life. She was a devoted mother who juggled the needs of her family with her professional responsibilities. As an engineer and plant manager at SAFFA, Pietro “constantly pursued new avenues of production. In this case, charity led him to diversify production” in order to provide jobs for his workforce even though it meant many absences from home. When he was at home, Pietro spent much time with his young children and his beautiful wife. When he was travelling, he wrote home almost daily.
📌Sacrifice
The third pillar, sacrifice, was undertaken daily in the way St. Gianna and Pietro placed the needs of each other and of the children above their own. For Pietro, frequent absences from home was a sacrifice that he bore and offered to God for his family. Sacrifice was also evident in St. Gianna’s choice to save her fourth baby’s life over her own. Pietro recalled that after Gianna Emanuela’s birth, St. Gianna, “with difficulty took the baby in her arms, lifted her up, and kissed her, looking at her with such sadness that I knew she was aware that she would leave this child an orphan.” Pietro sacrificed and suffered much in agreeing to his wife’s request to save the baby’s life over her own and then raising the children as a single father. Two years after St. Gianna’s death, he suffered the unimaginable grief of losing a child, Mariolina, to a fatal illness. He expressed the role that sacrifice and suffering played in his marriage and family life: “I’ve had to convince myself that sorrow remains a mystery even in the light of faith, and I have experienced that the only way to accept it is the way of the Crucified Christ.” Like St. Gianna and Pietro, if we strive to live our marriage unselfishly, with great love for God, our spouse, and our children, we will feel the weight of the cross given to us by Our Father in order to sanctify us through the vocation He wills for us. It is in our vocation of marriage lived joyfully and with trust in Divine Providence that He calls us to be saints.
Hopefully, the Synod will honour the call to sanctity in marriage. Hopefully they will address the challenges faced by Catholic families, not by watering down Magisterial teachings but by raising up married people to bear witness to God’s love and salvation through the Church’s teaching on marriage and family life. Hopefully, they will call for us to repent and atone for whatever in our marital situation is not in line with the Magisterium and therefore contrary to God’s plan for us.
St. Gianna and Pietro Molla showed us what the modern Catholic marriage ought to be: self-giving, patient, loving, joyful, passionate, and upheld by the pillars of prayer, action, and sacrifice. The Synod on the Family should provide us with renewed sound Catholic teaching and support so that in our marriages we may daily strive to live these ideals. Let us pray for the defense and strengthening of sacramental Catholic marriage. Let us pray for our bishops and all clergy who are called to follow the Magisterium in the area of marriage and family life and who have the challenge of guiding us to live out our vocation well. Let us pray for all married couples and their families. St. Gianna and Pietro Molla, pray for us".
The Meat
Site question: "Can a Catholic Ever Get Married in a Non-Catholic Church?", by Cathy Caridi, J.C.L.,
Site address:
http://canonlawmadeeasy.com/2007/08/23/can-a-catholic-ever-get-married-in-a-non-catholic-churc/
"Q: At a social event, I met a woman who is Catholic, but newly married to a Methodist. We started talking about wedding-planning, and she mentioned that her own wedding took place just a couple of months ago in a Methodist church. So I assumed that she’s out of the Church. But subsequently I saw her receiving Holy Communion at Mass at my parish! Don’t Catholics have to get married in a Catholic church? So isn’t she in a state of sin because she’s not really married? Why should she be allowed to receive Communion then? Should somebody tell our pastor about this? –Beth
A: Catholics as a rule must be married in accord with what’s called canonical form. This still applies even when one of the parties to the marriage is not Catholic. The canonical form of marriage requires that the marriage be contracted in the presence of either one’s pastor, or another priest or deacon deputed by him, like the associate pastor or a priest-friend of the family (c. 1108). In rare situations when no priest is available for long periods of time—as happens in some parts of Alaska, for instance—a lay person may receive advance permission from a bishop to take the place of a priest at Catholic weddings. That lay person must always be a Catholic himself (c. 1112).
Most Catholics probably do not realize that the existing canonical form for marriage is actually a relatively new development in the 2000-year-old history of the Church. During the protestant reformation, the Church found it necessary to assert her authority in the face of new non-Catholic ministers—in many cases, renegade Catholics who had rejected Church teachings—who claimed that they could lawfully officiate at Christian marriages. In 1563, the Catholic Church officially rejected these claims with the publication of the Decree Tametsi of the Council of Trent. Under this decree, Those who shall attempt to contract marriage otherwise than in the presence of the parish priest or of another priest authorized by the parish priest or by the ordinary [the local bishop] and in the presence of two or three witnesses, the holy council renders absolutely incapable of thus contracting marriage and declares such contracts invalid and null, as by the present decree it invalidates and annuls them (Sessio XXIV, November 11, 1563). This Tridentine decree is the basis for the current law.
Understandably, a non-Catholic who wishes to marry a Catholic may be unhappy about this requirement. We Catholics cannot fault a person who was raised in a non-Catholic church for wishing to get married in his own church! So, is there some way that the couple could be married by the non-Catholic party’s minister, and yet still be married in the eyes of the Catholic Church? Well, canon law forbids that both a non-Catholic minister and a Catholic priest officiate together at the same wedding (c. 1127.3), so no compromise of that sort is possible. Along similar lines, the same canon forbids a Catholic to have two separate wedding ceremonies, one Catholic and one non-Catholic, regardless of which one takes place first. There are theological reasons for this. The Church wishes to avoid the appearance that it is just as acceptable for a Catholic to have a non-Catholic wedding as a Catholic one, or that the two ceremonies are equally sufficient for the marriage’s validity—they’re not.
Canon 1127.2, however, notes that the bishop may dispense a mixed marriage from canonical form, if observing it would lead to “grave difficulties.” (The notion of dispensation, the relaxation of an ecclesiastical law in a particular case {c. 85}, was discussed in “Marriage Between a Catholic and a Non-Catholic.”) It’s up to the bishop to determine what constitutes a grave difficulty and what doesn’t. He may, for example, grant a dispensation based on the desire to maintain harmony with family members on the non-Catholic’s side, who are anti-Catholic and who object to a Catholic wedding ceremony. Another common scenario is that of a non-Catholic party with a family member who is a protestant cleric, who naturally wishes to officiate at the wedding. The dispensation allows the Catholic party to marry before a non-Catholic minister, in a non-Catholic ceremony, and still be considered validly married (assuming no other separate issues affect sacramental validity, of course) in the eyes of the Catholic Church.
Such a dispensation must be obtained in advance. A Catholic who gets married in a non-Catholic ceremony without a dispensation from canonical form is not validly married under canon law. How does one obtain this dispensation from canonical form? The process is initiated by the pastor of the Catholic party. He forwards a description of the situation to the bishop for review, and the bishop then informs him whether the dispensation is granted or not. As we can see, it is very possible that the Catholic woman whom Beth met, who was married in a Methodist church, is nevertheless validly married in the eyes of the Catholic Church. If she is in fact a member of Beth’s parish, and sought such a dispensation, the pastor would have been involved in obtaining it, so he would already be well aware of her situation. If that is the case, she is of course perfectly free to receive Holy Communion at Mass, and he would already know that there is no reason why she could not receive this sacrament. In any event, it is not safe to assume that this woman is automatically “out of the Church” because she was married in a Methodist wedding ceremony".
Site address:
http://canonlawmadeeasy.com/2007/08/23/can-a-catholic-ever-get-married-in-a-non-catholic-churc/
"Q: At a social event, I met a woman who is Catholic, but newly married to a Methodist. We started talking about wedding-planning, and she mentioned that her own wedding took place just a couple of months ago in a Methodist church. So I assumed that she’s out of the Church. But subsequently I saw her receiving Holy Communion at Mass at my parish! Don’t Catholics have to get married in a Catholic church? So isn’t she in a state of sin because she’s not really married? Why should she be allowed to receive Communion then? Should somebody tell our pastor about this? –Beth
A: Catholics as a rule must be married in accord with what’s called canonical form. This still applies even when one of the parties to the marriage is not Catholic. The canonical form of marriage requires that the marriage be contracted in the presence of either one’s pastor, or another priest or deacon deputed by him, like the associate pastor or a priest-friend of the family (c. 1108). In rare situations when no priest is available for long periods of time—as happens in some parts of Alaska, for instance—a lay person may receive advance permission from a bishop to take the place of a priest at Catholic weddings. That lay person must always be a Catholic himself (c. 1112).
Most Catholics probably do not realize that the existing canonical form for marriage is actually a relatively new development in the 2000-year-old history of the Church. During the protestant reformation, the Church found it necessary to assert her authority in the face of new non-Catholic ministers—in many cases, renegade Catholics who had rejected Church teachings—who claimed that they could lawfully officiate at Christian marriages. In 1563, the Catholic Church officially rejected these claims with the publication of the Decree Tametsi of the Council of Trent. Under this decree, Those who shall attempt to contract marriage otherwise than in the presence of the parish priest or of another priest authorized by the parish priest or by the ordinary [the local bishop] and in the presence of two or three witnesses, the holy council renders absolutely incapable of thus contracting marriage and declares such contracts invalid and null, as by the present decree it invalidates and annuls them (Sessio XXIV, November 11, 1563). This Tridentine decree is the basis for the current law.
Understandably, a non-Catholic who wishes to marry a Catholic may be unhappy about this requirement. We Catholics cannot fault a person who was raised in a non-Catholic church for wishing to get married in his own church! So, is there some way that the couple could be married by the non-Catholic party’s minister, and yet still be married in the eyes of the Catholic Church? Well, canon law forbids that both a non-Catholic minister and a Catholic priest officiate together at the same wedding (c. 1127.3), so no compromise of that sort is possible. Along similar lines, the same canon forbids a Catholic to have two separate wedding ceremonies, one Catholic and one non-Catholic, regardless of which one takes place first. There are theological reasons for this. The Church wishes to avoid the appearance that it is just as acceptable for a Catholic to have a non-Catholic wedding as a Catholic one, or that the two ceremonies are equally sufficient for the marriage’s validity—they’re not.
Canon 1127.2, however, notes that the bishop may dispense a mixed marriage from canonical form, if observing it would lead to “grave difficulties.” (The notion of dispensation, the relaxation of an ecclesiastical law in a particular case {c. 85}, was discussed in “Marriage Between a Catholic and a Non-Catholic.”) It’s up to the bishop to determine what constitutes a grave difficulty and what doesn’t. He may, for example, grant a dispensation based on the desire to maintain harmony with family members on the non-Catholic’s side, who are anti-Catholic and who object to a Catholic wedding ceremony. Another common scenario is that of a non-Catholic party with a family member who is a protestant cleric, who naturally wishes to officiate at the wedding. The dispensation allows the Catholic party to marry before a non-Catholic minister, in a non-Catholic ceremony, and still be considered validly married (assuming no other separate issues affect sacramental validity, of course) in the eyes of the Catholic Church.
Such a dispensation must be obtained in advance. A Catholic who gets married in a non-Catholic ceremony without a dispensation from canonical form is not validly married under canon law. How does one obtain this dispensation from canonical form? The process is initiated by the pastor of the Catholic party. He forwards a description of the situation to the bishop for review, and the bishop then informs him whether the dispensation is granted or not. As we can see, it is very possible that the Catholic woman whom Beth met, who was married in a Methodist church, is nevertheless validly married in the eyes of the Catholic Church. If she is in fact a member of Beth’s parish, and sought such a dispensation, the pastor would have been involved in obtaining it, so he would already be well aware of her situation. If that is the case, she is of course perfectly free to receive Holy Communion at Mass, and he would already know that there is no reason why she could not receive this sacrament. In any event, it is not safe to assume that this woman is automatically “out of the Church” because she was married in a Methodist wedding ceremony".
The Dessert
Audio sermon on morality and marriage, by Fr. Robert Altier
http://www.fatheraltier.excerptsofinri.com/audio/fundamentals-of-catholicism/21-class11-marriage-morality.mp3
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http://www.fatheraltier.excerptsofinri.com/audio/fundamentals-of-catholicism/21-class11-marriage-morality.mp3
₣ŖÏËŅĐŚ ÏŅ ĊȞŖÏŚȚ, 2 B ŴËĻĻ Ů ŅËËĐ 2 ȚÄĶË ŚPÏŖÏȚŮÄĻ ĊÄŖË
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ĻÏVË ₣ËÄŖĻËŚŚ ĊÄŮŚË ĠÖĐ'Ś ĻŮV, ŚȚŖËŅĠȚȞ, & ȞËĻP ÏŚ ÄĻŴÄŸŚ ȚȞËŖË
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